Be open with a nonjudgmental approach, sex positivity embraces the diversity of sexual expression.
Be open with a nonjudgmental approach, sex positivity embraces the diversity of sexual expression.

Common Sex Toys


 Here is a list of the most common sex toys and how to use them.

Wand Vibrator

One of the best first-time sex toys for people who want direct clitoral contact is a wand vibrator, which traditionally consists of a long handle with a vibrating, bulbous tip. The most iconic wand vibrator is hands down the Magic Wand (formerly known as the Hitachi Magic Wand), because it gained widespread popularity in the 1970s by being marketed as nothing more than a general body massager, despite it’s clear talent for moonlighting as a sex toy, making it an embarrassment-free purchase. It helped pave the way for so many of the sex toys we love today (the Magic Wand walked so that Dame’s “Com” wand could run). If you’d like a sex toy that can also legit work as a massager for your back or other parts of your body, this is the one for you—but folks with more sensi clits might want to steer towards clitoral suction toys.    

Vibrating Panties

What They Do:
A very specific kind of hands-free vibrator, these pulsing panties make putting on your underwear as pleasurable as taking them off.

How to Use Them: 
Usually vibrating panties have to be within a certain distance from the remote or smartphone turning them on. However, there are a few different variations with different parameters. Less high-tech panties just offer a compartment for a removable bullet vibrator. You must directly stroke the vibrator to turn it on and off. Other have built-in vibrators with a cord that connects the remote to the underwear. Wireless panties are operated remotely. Depending on how far the remote can be from the panties, your companion can turn on as a surprise

Bullet Vibrator

Bullet vibrators are a popular first sex toy, because they’re affordable vibrators that are about the size of their namesake, making them a discreet sex toy travel companion. Bullet vibes can be used during foreplay on the nipples and around (but NEVER in) the anus—don’t wanna take an embarrassing trip to the ER when you lose one up there—and they give direct stimulation to the clitoris or anywhere else on the body that gives you or your partner(s) pleasure. Many bullet vibrators run on batteries, so keep an eye out for those such as the Zee by Dame, which is fully rechargeable.   


Hands-Free Vibrators

What They Do: 
These mechanical playthings help you rub out one out without a lot of work. A hands-free vibrator sits on top of a clitoris, or another tender area, usually with appendages that keep it secure. Some also have penetrative arms. You can control the oscillations through a remote or even an app on your phone (don’t let your mother use it to make a quick call.)

How to Use Them:
Lay face up as you insert the toy. Avoid clenching your legs, it will cause the vibrator to fall out. Establish the precise settings you crave, or let your partner (especially if they are out of town) control the cadence for you. Lay back, and let it do the work! 


Rabbit Vibrators

What They Do:
What is rabbit-style you ask? Best known for being featured on Sex and the City, the rabbit penetrates the vagina while fluttering on one’s clitoris. This allows both areas to be aroused at once. Usually, they include a variety of speeds and settings or can thrust.

How to Use Them:
Set the vibrations to your optimal movements and pace, working your way up. Pulse the dildo end inside you, until you are at your perfect, most pleasurable rhythm. If it thrusts, this can be hands-free.


Clitoral Suction Vibrator 

A clitoral suction vibrator is a sex toy that uses gentle sonic technology to mimic the sensation of receiving really good head, the most popular of which is the cult-fave Satisfyer Pro 2. The toy is a best-seller on Amazon with a 4.5-star rating from over 50,000 reviews, because it does what a top-notch suction vibe should by providing a fluttering, consistent air suction pressure to your clitoris to stimulate it—without ever touching it directly. Pretty cool, right? 


Thrusting Dildos

What They Do:
Some of the newest and most innovative sex toys to hit the market, thrusting dildos or “pulsators” penetrate by retracting and expanding back and forth. Whether you apply them vaginally or anally, they simulate penetrative sex.

How to Use Them:
These bad boys take care of you, without you needing to lift a finger. There’s usually no need for a partner with thrusting dildos, especially if they come with a vibrator that stimulates you, rabbit-style.



What They Do:
Just like the rabbit, this toy uses two parts: the harness and the dildo. The harness straps to your crotch allowing you to penetrate your partner with the strap-on dildo, which has a flat base. These types of dildos can lay flat and secured on a surface. You can even enjoy them without the harness.

How to Use Them: 
Strap onto your body and penetrate your partner. Check out our 27 Lesbian Sex Tips Porn Won't Teach You for more detailed instructions. Here’s a taste: If you're wearing a strap-on and penetrating doggy-style, try using a belt (preferably leather.) Loop it under her stomach/hips and hold the end with one hand and the buckle-end with the other. 


Double Ended Dildos

What They Do:
These double ended dildos enter two partners at once. Often these toys vibrate, adding extra indulgence.

How to Use Them:
These can be used between two people, where one inserts the small sculpted end inside them and penetrates their partner with the base. Normal sex positions and moves should work fine, but you may need more lube! For solo play, bend the ends so it penetrates you in two places at once.


These sex toys are often dildos or rabbit vibes that are specifically designed to mimic the thrusting power of a penis, and tend to be on the more expensive side (that kind of engineering costs money!) because they provide even more sensation to the penetrative experience. You know how that animatronic Abe Lincoln was the peak of technology at Disneyland for so many years? That’s thrusters, only for sex toy nerds. This highly rated Fun Factory toy would be a great first-time thruster, because it has a straightforward phallic design and seven speeds that are easy to control with its three buttons. 

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Penis Rings

What They Do:
Penis rings make a partner with a member last longer through intercourse by cutting off circulation. By preventing blood from flowing back into the penis, this amplifies and prolongs erections.

How to Use Them:
Some cock rings rest on shafts, but others can clamp down on the penis and testicles. For a normal penis ring, apply lubricant inside the toy so it slides on easily then put on while the penis is not erect. The ring will become tighter as you become more erect. If it is meant to go over one's testicles and penis, set the ring around the testicles, one at a time. Leave it around the scrotum then squeeze the penis, head first, inside.

Cock Cages

What They Do:
Cock cages, otherwise known as chastity cages, are unique devices that serve characters who are aroused by not being able to get carnal satisfaction. Often metal or plastic, they lock with a padlock or key and prevent you from being able to get an erection. (They’re basically the opposite of a penis ring.)

How to Use Them:
Secure a ring around your penis and testicles while the penis is inserted into the cage’s tube. Determine a keyholder — you or a partner — and bolt up your member. That’s it! You can even wear these in public (hey, you’re not getting off, right?) Cock cages are best suited for short intervals, not long-term use. To avoid chafing, apply lubricant beneath the rings. 

Penis Pump

Penis pumps ROCK. These toys remind us of those high-powered suction tubes at the bank, and they can temporarily enlarge the penis as well as help folks with erectile dysfunction (ED) to maintain an erection by creating a suction effect around the penis, typically in a plastic tube, courtesy of a battery or hand-powered pump and a band that fits, and increases blood flow to the penis. Edge makes a highly rated, hand-fueled pump in a clear, latex- and phthalate-free tube so that you can see all your… business.


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